Tower Builders

From a conversation we enjoyed at Children’s Church on Sunday:

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“What happens if, when you are building a tower, you put a small block on the bottom and then put other blocks on top?”

“This is easy,” says the one who is stable with the wide, strong feet,”the whole tower falls over!”

“The whole tower?!  Oh No!”

“BUT”, the one with the heart of a warrior gives hope, “if you start with a big block, a strong block, on the bottom you can put the other blocks on top and the tower will stand strong.”

Such wisdom from these little bodies with big hearts and big minds!

The largeness of marriage is not meant to be supported on the small blocks of selfishness.  This indeed makes a ‘toppley’ tower:

 “While love asks us to deny ourselves for the sake of someone else, selfishness compels us to focus on ourselves at their expense.” (Love Dare, Day 3)

The largeness of marriage was designed to be supported on two strong pillars:  patience and kindness.

“If patience is how love reacts in order to minimize a negative circumstance, kindness is how love acts to maximize a positive circumstance.”

“Patience avoids a problem; kindness creates a blessing.”

(Love Dare; Day 2)

Just like the children can choose which block to place on the bottom of their towers, we can choose which foundations to build our marriages on.

We can lead our hearts!

A common mistake is thinking that the ‘lead of our heart’ is our feelings.  But our feelings are so fickle, changing with circumstance, and are very subject to our selfishness.

The ‘lead of our heart’ is our words and our actions.

The Bible draws a word picture of how our tongues are comparable to a bridle on a horse or a rudder on a ship; small but with the ability to control the whole body and the whole ship.

The great King David, the once shepherd boy turned king, said,

Whoever of you loves life and desires to see many good days, keep your tongue from evil (Psalm 34:12-13)

We love life!  We want to see many good days!  And so, like David, we can pray,

Set a guard over my mouth, Lord; keep watch over the door of my lips. (Psalm 141:3)

We don’t dare go back in time to all the impatient and unkind words spoken, these memories are like snares to the feet.  But instead we follow the example of one who has gone on before;

Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal for which God has called me… (Philippians 3:13-14)

Remember today, you are tower-builders.  Be encouraged and build with blocks of          patience and kindness.

Think about the Lord’s everlasting patience and unfailing kindness towards us, in these truths, we find wisdom and strength to be good and wise tower-builders.

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My Prairie Girl, Aimee, and bridled Roper!

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‘I Double-Dare You’

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Can you resist a dare?

Perhaps it is the middle child in me who has to prove myself as ‘just as strong’, ‘just as wise’, ‘just as capable’, but for whatever reason, I have a hard time passing up a dare.

My favourite Sunday  School song was Dare to Be a Daniel.

Growing up, Saturdays were spent riding horseback and trying the daring stunts I had watched on Young Riders.

I signed up for Grade 12 Physics because the teacher suggested it might be too hard for me…I passed because of a great teacher and a super tutor.

I married at 19, became pregnant at 20 and had four children by the time I was 25. When our youngest was born at 28 weeks, my husband and I (by God’s Grace) dared to believe that God could do what He said He would do and that she would suffer no consequences of her extreme prematurity.  (Psalm 91)

When I wanted to get my post-baby body back into shape I puffed through learning to run, ‘weak-armed’ my way through P90x and “modified to completion” through Insanity.

Adventure and independence have made it to my top five values (although my doses of each are a lot smaller than other people I know, lol).

So when I stumbled upon a marriage book that opened with the following dare…I was hooked:

“RECEIVE THIS AS A WARNING.  THIS FORTY-DAY JOURNEY CANNOT BE TAKEN LIGHTLY.

IT IS A CHALLENGING AND OFTEN DIFFICULT PROCESS, BUT AN INCREDIBLY FULFILLING ONE.  TO TAKE THIS DARE REQUIRES A RESOLUTE MIND AND A STEADFAST DETERMINATION.

IT IS NOT MEANT TO BE SAMPLED OR BRIEFLY TESTED, AND THOSE WHO QUIT EARLY WILL FORFEIT THE GREATEST BENEFITS.  IF YOU WILL COMMIT TO A DAY AT A TIME FOR FORTY DAYS, THE RESULTS COULD CHANGE YOUR LIFE AND YOUR MARRIAGE.

CONSIDER IT A DARE, FROM OTHERS WHO HAVE DONE IT BEFORE YOU.”

This Love Dare ‘made me think’, ‘hit the nail on the head’, caused me to ‘ask the right questions’ of myself.

It is a Dare…not one to ‘push through’ but oddly one to ‘fall into’.  The Bible teaches that God DARED to love us…

The greatest dare, the double-dare, is to fall into God’s Love.

Falling into God’s love frees us to love others deeply.

“We love because He first loved us”

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Left to Right: Aimee, Merodee & Kevin, Joshua & Morgan, James & Bayley, Aynslee!