From a conversation we enjoyed at Children’s Church on Sunday:
“What happens if, when you are building a tower, you put a small block on the bottom and then put other blocks on top?”
“This is easy,” says the one who is stable with the wide, strong feet,”the whole tower falls over!”
“The whole tower?! Oh No!”
“BUT”, the one with the heart of a warrior gives hope, “if you start with a big block, a strong block, on the bottom you can put the other blocks on top and the tower will stand strong.”
Such wisdom from these little bodies with big hearts and big minds!
The largeness of marriage is not meant to be supported on the small blocks of selfishness. This indeed makes a ‘toppley’ tower:
“While love asks us to deny ourselves for the sake of someone else, selfishness compels us to focus on ourselves at their expense.” (Love Dare, Day 3)
The largeness of marriage was designed to be supported on two strong pillars: patience and kindness.
“If patience is how love reacts in order to minimize a negative circumstance, kindness is how love acts to maximize a positive circumstance.”
“Patience avoids a problem; kindness creates a blessing.”
(Love Dare; Day 2)
Just like the children can choose which block to place on the bottom of their towers, we can choose which foundations to build our marriages on.
We can lead our hearts!
A common mistake is thinking that the ‘lead of our heart’ is our feelings. But our feelings are so fickle, changing with circumstance, and are very subject to our selfishness.
The ‘lead of our heart’ is our words and our actions.
The Bible draws a word picture of how our tongues are comparable to a bridle on a horse or a rudder on a ship; small but with the ability to control the whole body and the whole ship.
The great King David, the once shepherd boy turned king, said,
Whoever of you loves life and desires to see many good days, keep your tongue from evil (Psalm 34:12-13)
We love life! We want to see many good days! And so, like David, we can pray,
Set a guard over my mouth, Lord; keep watch over the door of my lips. (Psalm 141:3)
We don’t dare go back in time to all the impatient and unkind words spoken, these memories are like snares to the feet. But instead we follow the example of one who has gone on before;
Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal for which God has called me… (Philippians 3:13-14)
Remember today, you are tower-builders. Be encouraged and build with blocks of patience and kindness.
Think about the Lord’s everlasting patience and unfailing kindness towards us, in these truths, we find wisdom and strength to be good and wise tower-builders.
My Prairie Girl, Aimee, and bridled Roper!